READ: Proverbs 12:4, 18:22, 31:10-11, 31:30
Marriage is an
incredible blessing from God! There’s a consistent testimony throughout God’s
Word that, “he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the
LORD” (18:22). One of the most significant blessings that come from the
marriage relationship is the joy of partnership, of a shared life. It’s good
for those who are married to ask – is this my experience of marriage? Is it
truly something I thank God for?
Of course, a
couple of key things will dramatically
impact whether or not we experience the potential of marriage. First, the
choice we make in choosing a spouse can greatly impact our enjoyment. Many have
discovered this reality. If we chase or chased after only physical attraction
or lust, or popularity or matched interests, difficulties can result later
on. Proverbs is clear - a godly
spouse is ultimately what brings happiness within marriage. Or as Proverbs puts
it, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is
to be praised” (31:30). Now some who are reading this may say – “well, it’s too
late now.” To this, Proverbs would say “no” and that takes us to a second key.
The second key is
that living out the wisdom of the book of Proverbs, is supported by the rest of
the Word, prayer and the power of the Holy Spirit. Fulfilling the potential of
what God intended for marriage is tied to our obedience to wisdom. Even a
difficult marriage, or a difficult partner, can be navigated by OUR choice to
pursue righteousness. There’s always hope for more in our marriage, if only
we’ll seek to live by God’s prescription for relationships.
JOURNALING AND PRAYER
1.
If
married, think back to the pursuit of your spouse and the decision to get
married. What was the decision to marry based on? If needed, confess where you
walked this path independent of the Lord. If, on the other hand, if you walked
with God in that time, thank Him for what He’s graciously done. Also spend some
time thanking God for your spouse. If single, ask God to give you His heart for
marriage and YOUR specific situation.
2.
Reflect
on this question, if married, – are you living according to God’s prescription
for marriage? Do you have a commitment of regular time in His Word, so that He
can speak to you clearly?
